Teaching chess takes a set of skills. Teaching chess to kids takes a completely different set of skills.
When kids 6-10 years old first picks up chess, two typical scenarios are:
Group A: ‘Oh Oh Oh Oh, I know this’. They’ll react instantly, want to get to the answers immediately, and keep going forward with the argument until there is not much left.
Group B: think, search, think, search, and think for more to get to the right answers, and still not sure how to respond.
We’ll call A Confidence, and B Patience.
Both wants to win or solve the puzzle, but they go from different routes.
Group A are willing to try things, and they are not afraid to be wrong. They have 10 ideas in their head within 5 seconds.
This will help them become more creative as their chess vision expands.
For the patience Group B: they are detail orientated, they want to check all the possibilities.
Their meticulous calculations will help them analyze both deep variations and broadly as more than one variation is possible.
On the flip side, these same strengths are often what give parents the most headaches.
Group A misses many opportunities. They often choose second best options, or worse, completely irrelevant ideas.
Group B becomes very indecisive that it feels paralyzing. And the thought of playing chess with a clock is unbearable.
How to improve
The best way is to have both. Telling Group A to slowdown is probably unfruitful. Try ask them to calculate the variations deeper or ask if there are other possibilities instead.
Similarly, telling Group B ‘just make a decision’ will introduce more anxiety.
Instead, ask what you have calculated, and what outcomes did you see in your calculations. Did you make the decision faster than last time?
In the end, we want to have both, confident but also patient. It will take practice, but learning chess will be more fun.